This is a great encapsulation of everything I think and feel about the discourse around appearance and keeping track of what other people look like. As an overweight woman who loves to wear interesting clothing and has a pretty developed and individualized sense of style I love getting compliments on my outfits but absolutely loathe when people comment on my appearance or weight or other people’s appearance or weight. I have a co-worker who is obsessed with fitness and comments on other people’s weight and appearance constantly. She’s a nice lady but I always have to brace myself for this stuff when she’s around. The thing I hate the most is when she’s says derogatory things about her own weight even though she recently lost a lot through a fairly punishing exercise regimen she started. I find myself gritting my teeth when she’s says derogatory does this.
Hi Galen! Thank you so much for your perspective. I really appreciate it. It's a shame we can't work together and share appropriate comments on each other's outfits! I find that work is a really loaded place because it's such an eclectic mix of people. I am very familiar with this teeth gritting routine. Sending you peace!
This is a great encapsulation of everything I think and feel about the discourse around appearance and keeping track of what other people look like. As an overweight woman who loves to wear interesting clothing and has a pretty developed and individualized sense of style I love getting compliments on my outfits but absolutely loathe when people comment on my appearance or weight or other people’s appearance or weight. I have a co-worker who is obsessed with fitness and comments on other people’s weight and appearance constantly. She’s a nice lady but I always have to brace myself for this stuff when she’s around. The thing I hate the most is when she’s says derogatory things about her own weight even though she recently lost a lot through a fairly punishing exercise regimen she started. I find myself gritting my teeth when she’s says derogatory does this.
Hi Galen! Thank you so much for your perspective. I really appreciate it. It's a shame we can't work together and share appropriate comments on each other's outfits! I find that work is a really loaded place because it's such an eclectic mix of people. I am very familiar with this teeth gritting routine. Sending you peace!